The Effects of Sexual Frustration in Pakistan

sf001One of the least examined problems of our Islamic society is sex, or the lack of it.  As Qandeel puts it: “We keep our mouths shut; we’re good at pretense, all for the sake of social propriety”. Without open discussion or education, it is expected to take care of itself; it is ‘natural’, so why the need to speak about it?

In countries where religion, culture and tradition are the most influential construction of the social system, sex is like the apple from the Garden of Eden – forbidden fruit. It is important to understand how the social dynamics and sex as a subject operates in Pakistan and why sex, with all its ramifications, is never discussed. Fetishes, perversions, homosexuality are hidden from view although they do exist; reliable sources say there are villages in Pakistan where you can buy sex with a cow. Also sheep, goats, dogs, donkeys, etc., others prefer their mammals more aquatic.

Statistics show a very miserable picture in the search trends of Google for Pakistan and highlight not only the use but the abuse of the internet in their desire for sex fantasies. Pakistan has a top ranking for Google Search “Porn”, but when examined closely, there is a standard of morality way below just that.

Liberalism, the dreaded ‘L’ word, was mentioned by the present PM Nawaz Sharif at a mass meeting and the word itself is enough to send the clergy into paroxysms of moral and religious indignation. The moment Sharif uttered the word during a speech, in the context of modernising Pakistan, clerics and many other conservative people pounced on him; even though the majority of them have little real idea of what it means. This typifies a kind of morality in which elders or Mosque Mullahs are always correct and everyone else, young or different, are always wrong.

The awful result of this enforced morality and silence is that no one stands up for those poor girls and women who are brutally raped, injured, disfigured or murdered. Such cases are all too frequent, like the one in Islamabad at the Pakistan Institute of Medical Sciences (PIMS) last Saturday night. A 22-year-old female patient who was disabled, allegedly raped whilst lying in the surgical Intensive Care Unit (ICU) of the hospital. The horrific serial child abuse case in Kasur rocked the country but these terrible crimes keep happening; in Karachi a teenage boy was sexually assaulted by police in 2003 and subsequently committed suicide; a 15-year-old college student was abducted and raped, allegedly by a rickshaw driver, last Friday and many more.


The reasoning behind the suicide bombers can perhaps be understood, but in a country where 78% of Pakistani Muslims want Sharia law (Pew Research Center Report), it is infamous and diabolical to rape.

 Let’s take a closer look at the methodology and practice in the country below.

If it’s agreed that 78% of the people demand Sharia law in country, the government of Pakistan could make a policy, according to Sharia, that every young person between the ages of 16 to 18 would be obligated to get married, the country would face the problems of overpopulation, economic depression, food supply, social welfare deficiencies, death in childbirth and more, because teenagers are immature and unable to handle such issues as birth rate and contraception; the government itself cannot and as they saying goes “Marriage is like life in that it is a field of battle and not a bed of roses”. The situation at present already has these issues

Legal centres of prostitution would not be possible or even be thought of in a country like Pakistan.

The dark face of this society, in which sex is a taboo, points to a time bomb on which we all sit. These trends are showing their effects in the increasing number of rapes and sex crimes all around the country. Enforced celibacy and silence entails sexual frustration and it is reaching a dangerous level. Economic deprivation, social delinquencies, the weakening of domestic bonds and a lack of healthy activities are channeling peoples’ energies, especially those of the young, towards dreadful addictions. It’s time that our leaders and elders “actually” start thinking about this nation Ayoub Khanbefore there is no nation left to talk about.

By Ayoub Khan

The writer is a student of M.A. Political Science at Government College University Lahore.



  1. Prof.(Dr) Khurshid Alam

    The clergy plays a greater role. Apart from their immorality with little students their lectures about the life after is based on HOORS.

    • Thank you for your valuable comment Sir. yeah you are right the concept of HOORS made young one’s made. Our society needs a dramatic change which is only possible through Revolution.

  2. Sex is privately discussed in our society which is better when compared to an open talk on this subject in media. There more one toss about such things, the more they influence people. And its simple truth, goodness is blunt while evil is sharp, hence instead of making an awareness among the masses about safe sex, or sex abuse, you are actually adding to the already existing HIDDEN problem. No one can deny that few cases of sex abuse and its related immoral sexual activities do happen but they are not widespread. I believe a society based on social and religious values can ensure a better future for us. We should avoid publicizing the secret sacred private issue of sex and focus on propagating a society based on strong moral, ethical and religious values

    • Due to that privacy the problem is raised and you said that a very few cases, i damn had the record of raped cases in Pakistan in a year more then hundred cases been point out by media. and where there is no media they are not counted. And Sex is natural process why to hide it from society, i just point out the problem which is increasing day by day. and what social values are you talking about, where a poor virgin girl was raped by 4 men in her room because of her brother crime the punishment was gave to the sister by village elder in panchait. is this what social value you are talking about.

  3. Glad to know you are a Ravian. I was at GC from 1965 to 1971. I wrote a book published in 2010 titled “Personas of Holy Pretence” after retiring from service. Our holy pretences are not restricted to sex only. They serve as masks that conceal a perverted package of twisted morals. That is at the epicentre of our severe crisis of identity & floating moral postures from situation to situation & from day to day. Given the stranglehold of religion and its intimidating execution by religion’s self appointed ground staff, unfortunately it seems we are destined to live with it for a very long time.

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